Parenting can be hard. Being a mom can be exhausting. And sometimes, we’re not always perfect. I admit it.
Pictures tell a story. A staged one. We can all look through social media and see beautiful and happy families, incredible places with amazing backgrounds, super cute mommy and me matching outfits, and perfect smiling kids. However, reality is just different.
How many times have we found ourselves stressing out about what’s the best time of the day to post? What to wear? What to say and how to be picture perfect? We basically drop everything (minus baby) just to get lots of likes and comments on your thoroughly thought out and planned post.
Sometimes we don’t realize how much time we’re taking away from our kids to please an audience that can wait. Not to mention the pressure it also adds to your children. I admit being social media consumed at times, especially because formulas have been shifted around. We’re constantly chasing our tails with these smart platforms and eternally trying to solve the super complicated equations that they throw at us just to get more followers and website views. Insane.
Because of this stigma, I have caught myself forgetting that my child is only almost 3 years old and that she requires a whole lot of attention. She doesn’t understand “give me 5 minutes”, “let me finish this and we can play”, or even “we’ll go to the park later.” Kids want immediate gratification. They have zero sense of time. They just know that their not getting what they want and for that reason, they begin to get our attention in a different way.
My mom told me once: “Your children have 2 ways of getting your attention: the good way and the bad way, but they’re ALWAYS trying to get your attention”.
It stuck with me. It made me stop and think of what I was doing. I realized that Julianna was having little crying episodes (I wouldn’t classify them as tantrums because they really weren’t that bad) probably because I wasn’t giving her my undivided attention. Kids know more than we think and they can definitely sense when our focus is not given 100% to them.
Since I began being conscious of my time with her, her mood and demeanor changed drastically. We need to remember that kids need love, attention, approval, security, stimulation, and activity. If we can’t find a balance, their world is unbalanced.
My piece of advice is to always acknowledge and recognize your children’s needs and always do your ultimate best to make them happy. Everything else can wait.