Mommy Life

Confessing my Parenting Fail

Parenting can be hard. Being a mom can be exhausting. And sometimes, we’re not always perfect. I admit it.

Pictures tell a story. A staged one. We can all look through social media and see beautiful and happy families, incredible places with amazing backgrounds, super cute mommy and me matching outfits, and perfect smiling kids. However, reality is just different. 

How many times have we found ourselves stressing out about what’s the best time of the day to post? What to wear? What to say and how to be picture perfect? We basically drop everything (minus baby) just to get lots of likes and comments on your thoroughly thought out and planned post.

Sometimes we don’t realize how much time we’re taking away from our kids to please an audience that can wait. Not to mention the pressure it also adds to your children. I admit being social media consumed at times, especially because formulas have been shifted around. We’re constantly chasing our tails with these smart platforms and eternally trying to solve the super complicated equations that they throw at us just to get more followers and website views. Insane.

Because of this stigma, I have caught myself forgetting that my child is only almost 3 years old and that she requires a whole lot of attention. She doesn’t understand “give me 5 minutes”, “let me finish this and we can play”, or even “we’ll go to the park later.” Kids want immediate gratification. They have zero sense of time. They just know that their not getting what they want and for that reason, they begin to get our attention in a different way.

My mom told me once: “Your children have 2 ways of getting your attention: the good way and the bad way, but they’re ALWAYS trying to get your attention”.

It stuck with me. It made me stop and think of what I was doing. I realized that Julianna was having little crying episodes (I wouldn’t classify them as tantrums because they really weren’t that bad) probably because I wasn’t giving her my undivided attention. Kids know more than we think and they can definitely sense when our focus is not given 100% to them.

Since I began being conscious of my time with her, her mood and demeanor changed drastically. We need to remember that kids need love, attention, approval, security, stimulation, and activity. If we can’t find a balance, their world is unbalanced.

My piece of advice is to always acknowledge and recognize your children’s needs and always do your ultimate best to make them happy. Everything else can wait.

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  • Ingrid
    January 6, 2018 at 12:23 PM

    Sweetie that is the best you can do!!!! Everything else can wait. When you get older you will sleep at night in peace at night knowing that your children are good kids, family oriented and best of all proud to have a MOM like you. LOVE YOUUUU!!!

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  • Jennifer
    January 22, 2018 at 9:34 PM

    I love what your mom said – that’s so very true!

    We go through behaviour jags and I know immediately when someone is acting out, it’s usually because things have gotten busy around here and I haven’t had as much one-on-one time.

    Thanks for sharing.
    xoxo

    • Mommy Mornings
      January 22, 2018 at 10:25 PM

      Hi Jennifer! Yes. Totally true. I have already noticed when my kids are showing signs of attention craving. I’m glad I have tuned into their feelings and needs much more by noticing these things. Thanks for stopping by.

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